What to Do When You're Applying Everywhere and Hearing Nothing

You’ve been putting yourself out there--updating your resume, writing thoughtful cover letters, applying to job after job. You’ve squeezed it in between school drop-offs, dishes, and bedtime routines. And still…nothing.

No callbacks. No interviews. Just silence.

And that silence? It’s loud.

If you’re feeling frustrated, discouraged, or starting to doubt yourself, you’re not alone. But I want you to hear this loud and clear: not getting responses does not mean you’re not good enough. It doesn’t mean you’re unqualified. And it definitely doesn’t mean you should give up.

What it really means is this: it might be time to shake things up. 

1. Stop relying on job boards alone. It's easy to feel like we're being productive by sending off online applications. But the reality is, most jobs are filled through networking and referrals.  If you haven't already, start talking to people.  Let friends, old coworkers, and neighbors know you're looking. Message someone who works at a company you're excited about. It might feel awkward at first, but connection is where the magic happens.

2. Make sure your resume speaks their language. If you’ve been sending the same version of your resume to every job, it's time to stop. Is your resume showing them how your experience matches what they’re asking for? Are you highlighting the strengths you built while managing a home, raising kids, leading volunteer work, or supporting a family? You have value. Make sure it shows up on the page. (And if you need help with that, Elavare has tools and workshops that can walk you through it).

3. Don’t take the silence personally. I know it’s hard not to. But behind every job posting are overwhelmed hiring managers, algorithms, and full inboxes. A lack of response is not a reflection of your worth. It’s just the reality of the process. So instead of measuring your success by callbacks, start measuring it by your effort. “I applied to three roles today.” “I reached out to one new person.” “I reworked my cover letter.” These are all wins. Celebrate them.

4. It’s okay to take a break but don’t quit. If you’re feeling drained, give yourself permission to take a break. Step away from the job boards. Breathe. Go outside. Watch a show. This isn’t about “hustle harder”—it’s about sustainable steps. Taking a break doesn’t mean you’re giving up—it just means you’re refueling.

5. Surround yourself with support. You don’t have to do this alone. Really. Whether it’s a group chat with other moms in the same season, a workshop, or a community like Elavare, find people who get it. This journey is easier (and more encouraging) when you’re not walking it by yourself.

Here’s what you need to know: the right job is out there. And the silence you’re hearing right now? It won’t last forever. Every “no” or “not yet” is just leading you closer to the right “yes.”

So keep going. Keep applying. Keep believing in yourself--even when it’s hard. You’ve done harder things before.